When were young, were cautioned. Were told not to trust people so easily. Were told to be wary of strangers. Were told to act a certain way, whether its to be tough, unemotional men or polite, poised women. Were spoon-fed ideas about relationshipshow theyre supposed to look or be, how were supposed to feel and act. And then were given contradictions in the form of childhood movies or romantic comedies, in the form of words vs. actions, in the form of expectations vs. how the world works.

Were told that men must save women like princes in the fairytales, but then were told that women must be empowered and strong and not need saving. Were told were not supposed to give our bodies away, but then encouraged to have deeper connections with the ones we choose to let in. Were told to be true to ourselves, yet mold our exteriors to be people worth pursuing.

But most of all, were told how wonderful love is, yet how unworthy of it we are. Or how we must believe in it and fall into it, yet always stay guarded and never fall in too deep.

We are walking messes. We dont know which end is up or how to step forward. We dont know whats right for us, or what we should do. We dont know what will make us happy, and even when we discover it, half the time were too afraid of what will happen if it doesnt work out to even try.

See, our purpose on this earth is to love and be loved, to let people in, to engage in conversations and commitments and entanglements and love, most importantly, love. Were to let our hearts beat wildly. Were to mold ourselves into other peoples lives, and walk alongside them in their life journey. Were to have feelings and embrace them in all their craziness.

Were supposed to fall into each other.

And inevitably, were supposed to experience the ups and downs of the rollercoaster of love.

But were cautioned so much to be careful and hesitant, to be guarded and fearful. Dont be afraid of the negative things love can potentially bring you. Choose to only see the positive. Love. Not blindly, but boldly. Fall into people and trust their goodness. Let people in and watch how your soul blossoms when you allow the world to see you for who you really are.

Become the person who is open and soft, not harsh and hidden. And watch how the world opens to you in return.

Dont be afraid to care about people, to have feelings, to express emotion, to speak whats on your heart, or to let people know what they mean to you.

Dont be afraid to let go of your fears and step forward into relationships and commitments, even those that dont promise forever, because as humans, forever is a lot to promise.

Dont be afraid to allow love to strengthen your heart, over and over, before and during and even after pain.

Dont be afraid to defy all those rules you were taught when you were youngerhow to be, to feel, to act. This is your life and your heart. You can decide who and how and in what way to let someone in.

Dont be afraid to feel.
Dont be afraid to let your heart be filled.

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